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This article Addresses The Answer To
Infertility and It Is Not Adoption.
"Adoption was created to provide homes
for orphans. These by definition are children
without parents. Car crashes, war, natural
disasters. It was never created to provide
children to 'poor infertile couples'. When did the
wires get crossed? I guess when someone started
making money. Children are not a commodity!!!! Get
a puppy."
- An adoptee
"Follow the money"
- Deep Throat
I am opposed to the adoption for many
reasons. Adoption by any other name is
the
buying and selling of another woman's child.
The adoption industry is a multi-million
dollar industry and it does not only exploit
women. It also exploits the children.
It
is sad and tragic when a couple finds out one or
both of them are unable to have their own "true
and natural" children.
However, I am
convinced that The Lord, in his infinite wisdom
did not want that couple to have children of their
own.
The Lord who creates all of us saw
something in the person or persons that he has
created infertile.
Adoption is not
scriptural or biblical.
It has no merit and
one must get confused with an spiritual adoption
verses an adoption of another woman's child.
The adoption industries main agenda is to
try to convince a "true and natural" single mother
to give up her child because it is in the "best
interest of the child" if she does.
There
is no one state that has the same interest of the
child standard.
Each state has their own
definition and sometimes it is not in the child's
"best interest" to give up the child.
There has been psychological studies about
The Adoptive Child Syndrome.
This study
clearly states that a child that is adopted has an
identity problem and psychologoical problems as
they grow and they find out that they are not the
"true and natural" child of the people who adopt
them.
There is a website created to
provide information to people about adoption and
the industry which is at BirthMothers Exploited By
Adoption.
This site is recommended because
it is written by many "true and natural" mothers
that were exploited and cocerised by the Adoption
Industry, Adoption Workers and The Adoption
Facilitators.
When a "true and
natural" mother gives up her child. It is proven
that the mother does not move on in the case of
A Murder In BearLake: A Child Lost Forever
which tells the tragic story of a 16 year white
teen age "birth" mother, Jerri Sherwood, who is
forced to give up her child in the 70's because
her parents signed away parental rights of her
child to the State Adoption Agency.
Jerri
Sherwood later finds out that the adoptive mother,
Lois Jurgerson, murders her son, Dennis, when he
is only three years old. Jerri is persistent to
find out the truth behind her son's death.
To make this story short and to get to the
point, the adoptive mother could not accept Dennis
as he was and so when he did not live up to her
high expectations of Dennis . She abusing so
severely that he dies in result of the abuse.
Lois is sentenced to 25 years in prison in
Minnesota after Jerri takes the case to court.
We must look at the New York Case about a
Jewish Doctor and his girlfriend, and how they
abused their adoptive daughter, Elizabeth. This
very same couple were allowed to adopt a son, who
actually saw how they mistreated Elizabeth and
testify against his adopters.
I not only speak against domestic adoption
but also foreign adoption as well.
It is
true that there is not many healthy aviailable
"white" infants under the age of 5 years of age.
For this very reason due to Roe Vs Wade and
the waiting list for a healthy available white
baby is long.
Many White couples will go
overseas looking to adopt a white baby from one of
the countries where poverty is so abundant.
Cave't Emp'tor means "Buyer Beware".
Babies and Children are not returnable.
However, all across this great land of ours,
"wrongful adoption" litigation is going.
Adopters are screaming "wrongful
adoption" practices and due to the fact that most
Adoption Agencies don't have all the background
information and health information of the child's
"true and natural" families .
The adopters are
able to bring law suits against the adoption
agencies.
Adopters are also given the
chance to relinguish their own parental rights and
claim damages due to the fact they had to spend an
excessively large amounts of money out of their
own pockets for either physical health problems or
mental and emotional health problems.
When
an adopter does relinguish their parental rights
to the child they promised to "take as their own"
as adoption once meant. What happens to the child
they do relinguish.
The child is placed
back into the same child welfare system that they
were taken out of.
What happens to the
child is a big question.
Children that are
returned to the child welfare system are now once
again "legally created" orphans. This means that
the child has no parents on record.
Children that are placed into the foster
care system and linger there until they reach the
age of 18. They often have psychologoical problems
and
learning disabilities. They are not well
adjusted and they have poor self esteem.
Some "true and natural" mothers seem to
think that an "open adoption" is the answer to
their problem. However, there is certain legal
ramifications when it comes to agreeing to an
"open adoption".
First, the only
difference between a "close" adoption and an
"open" adoption is that the "true and natural"
mother is able to select from a large portfolio
the couple who she wants to adopt her child.
Yet still, the "true and natural" mother
has to surrender her parental rights over to her
child.
No "open" adoption is guaranteed to
work and the "true and natural" mother loses all
her rights to her child when she surrenders her
parental rights over to her child.
An
"open" adoption is not a legal agreement and there
is no binding contract. If for any reason the
adopters don't want the "true and natural" mother
to see their child anymore. There is nothing that
can be done about it.
So, it is
recommended that the "true and natural" mother
realizes that once she signs over her parental
rights . She is at the mercy of the adopters and
what they say goes. She has no leg to stand on.
The adopters are not under any obligation
-legal or moral- to keep in contact with the "true
and natural" mother and to keep in contact with
her by exchanging letters and pictures of the
child she relinguished.
Many a "true and
natural" mother have had problems with an open
adoption.
It really does not matter if one is
able or not to pick and choice who they want to
adopt and raise their child.
Most states
do not give adoption subsidy payments to adopters
who adopt a child if the parents surrender their
parental rights voluntarily. This is because the
child is not a part of the child welfare system.
The adopters are on their own. They do not
get reimbursed for legal fees.
However, if
the adopters chose a child that has been forcibly
removed from their "true and natural" parents
care, custody and control, for any reasons such as
abuse, neglect, a child in need of services and
dependency and the "Best Interest of the Child" .
Most states do pay adoption subsidy
payments if the child is found to be
1-
disabled i.e. physically, emotionally, or mentally
or a combination of both.
2- If the child
comes from a group of siblings of 3 or more
3-
If the child comes from a minority group
i.e.Afro-American, Mixed Races,
Hispanic, etc.
4. If the child is over the age of 13.
The amount that each state pays is up to
the very state one lives in and if the family
qualifies for these adoption subsidy payments.
The State also reimburses the adopters for
legal fees. How much varies from state to state.
It is a one time payment.
Many "White"
couples are looking to adopt a healthy white baby
under the age of 3 years old. However, due to a
shortage their wait may be as long as 7 years.
Foreign Adoptions are not a good idea.
They are very expensive and ideally couples
don't know anything about the child's family
background i.e. health and other pertient
information.
Couples who adopt an
international white child due to the shortage here
in the United States don't know what they are
really getting themselves into.
These very
same white couples don't know what they are
getting into and any adoption is able to be
terminated.
The adopters are still able to
terminate their own parental rights to a child
they have adopted internationally.
Infertility is heart breaking. There are
self help groups such as resolve to help couples
come to term with the fact that they are
infertile.
Every child has the right to be
loved and to accept as is, and to be loved for who
and what he/or she is and to be molded into what
the adoptive parents expect out of a child they
adopt.
My daughter is one of those children. She
was adopted after my second ex, she and I became
victims of the 1980 Child Protection Witchhunts
that were so big across the United States.
When they determine the Juvenile Court
and the Guardian Ad Litem determined it was not in
our daughter's "Best Interest" to have her
returned to us due to "substantial Risk of Harm"
which CPS equivalent to Poverty.
Our
daughter was placed into an adoptive home and many
years the adopters did scream "wrongful" adoption.
They also subjected her to a life of poverty by
taking her down to Social Security and applying
for Social Security Supplementary Sercuity Income.
They live a comfortable life-style but my
daughter does not.
The "Best Interest" of
The Child is not always in the Best Child of The
Child. Juvenile Judges, Child Protection Services,
and The Social Workers and Guardian Ad Litems
don't care what is the "Best Interest" of The
child.
When ever The State is able to
terminate the parental rights of parents and find
what the State considers a more sutiable home in
their eyes for a child. If the child is able to be
successfuly placed in to an adoptive home.
The State reaps the awards from the
Federal Government and so does the foster care
givers and adopters. There is no help for the
"true and natural" family and to preserve it.
Infertilty is a fact of life and it is sad
fact of life. Some times it can be remedied by new
technology and fertility treatment does open up
new hope for those couples to be able to have
their own children.
Fertility is expensive
and many insurances and HMO's and PPO's only cover
up to $50,000 per person for the diagnosis,
prognosis, and treatment of infertility.
Adoption is not the answer. Acceptance is.
KEAL
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